Good advice is good advice, even if it does come from your Mom, so we gathered some wise words from local grandmas, in case your own parents are afraid to tell you:

1. You Need to Slow Down...Way Down
Take time to have more fun with your family. The years go by so quickly, and you can't go back. We all need to slow down and enjoy the moments while we’re in them. Try to listen to your kids, and spend individual time with each of them. Take time to create family moments. Offer an invitation to grandma and grandpa to "Come to dinner... just because!" No special occasion....just a chance to visit and be together. And the relaxation will do you good. It’s hard to be the best parent you can be if you’re exhausted.

2. Try to Act More, and React Less
Pause and think before you react to the things that your children do. Many times the "crime" is not as horrible as it seems at the moment, and you may really just be reacting to a bad day. Try to listen carefully to what your kids have to say, and speak to them in a calm tone of voice. Or, the next time you’re tempted to shout some rapid-fire command, try slowing down and whispering, or saying it in a silly voice. The funny factor usually gets kids’ attention better than resorting to noise. And when you do lose it—we all do—it’s okay to let your kids know you're not perfect, you’re just trying to do your best.

3. Manners Still Count
From table manners to thank you notes, it’s important to encourage your children to be respectful and gracious. Show them how to be polite, and talk with them about what you are grateful for and how you like to show gratitude. Speak positive words to people and situations, and congratulate your kids when they manage to do the same.

4. Balance Your Dollars and Sense
One grandma told us this: “Have a savings account and plan for your retirement, even if you can only save a little bit each month.” Again, time goes by very quickly. Another had this advice: “Don't get into debt—it's hard to get out.” And they all hoped their kids would teach their grandkids to be wise with money. An Elk Grove granny had this insight to share: “Remember that sometimes the ‘wanting’ is as much fun as the ‘getting.’”

5. Love ‘Em All You Can
Find something to praise and affirm your children about every day. Everyone needs to feel appreciated, respected and loved. Tell everyone you love how much you love them, when you say goodbye, when you say goodnight, or just because.

And one more thing… Send your mother chocolate!